How do I get toner out of my hair?

I have dark brown hair and wanted to lighten it a shade. I went to the salon and she said the only way to lighten it was with highlights. So she gave me like caramel highlights and then put a toner over it so it wouldn't be so bright. But the thing is, I did not want it to look red AT ALL. And now I think because she put the toner over the highlights, it looks like a reddish tone. How do I get the toner out of my hair without stripping my highlights, because I like their color.